link dump friday #4

right on time. here we go:

if you’re a #Hamilfan AND #Potterhead you should probably take a gander at this.

every once and a while someone send’s me a link to a Beyoncé uni course cause they know i stan for her. Kevin Allred was the first to bring one to life at Rutger’s in their Gender Studies department and he hosts a podcast called Bey-ond Pop Culture that I enjoy every week. This week he wrote a piece in Huffpo for their series When Representation Mattered entitled, “What I, A White Man, Want Everyone To Know About The Power Of Black Women” and i think it’s real good. i have similar feelings i think. Destiny’s Child’s Survivor was for me what Control was for Kevin.

doing ballet growing up in a rural area made me latch on to all things ballet even if they were awful, like Disney’s the Nutcracker featuring Macaulay Culkin from the 90’s. i was thrilled to learn earlier this week that Misty Copeland is partnering with Disney for a new Nutcracker film.

The Survivor’s Guide to Gaza

“Who knew there’d come a time when people didn’t want to bury their children?”

#SayHerName: Korryn Gaines and the Erasure of Violence Against Black Women. also, this thread is fire.

so, like. this is for feminist men (i just shuddered while i typed that so, take it for what it is) who are dating. but… despite being super cis and hetero it does a super bang up job talking about attachment and autonomy within (dating) relationships. i kind of consider attachment to be my jam at the moment (it’s where i’m learning the most about myself right now) but i learned a lot whole reading this. could not recommend enough.

i’m currently re-watching Parenthood (the little show that could produced by Jason Katims who also executive produced FNL) and the show put back into my orbit this song. ps. i need more people to watch Parenthood so we can talk about it. it is super compelling TV.




i’m going there. or at least i’m trying to.

i’ve been trying to start a blog since i moved to the city in september. that day in september when i decided i should start one i took an amazing selfie and wrote a bunch of words down about leaving a place i had learned to call home and what i wanted for myself in the up coming year. some of what i wrote included:

what does it mean to be on my own? what does it mean to be really alone, to have chosen it for myself, for the first time, in arguably my whole life? i don’t think i really know. and it feels daunting and scary as hell, but… i hope it means re-learning what taking care of myself looks like. i hope it means writing down lots of things even if they’re the most mundane so that i can look back and remember. i hope it means paying acute attention to how i am feeling, why i’m feeling and what i should do about it, if i do anything, and honouring it to the fullest, while of course, writing it down.

to continuing to and hopefully more often speak hard truths.

a lot of those words still ring true and are nice to revisit and reflect on. the truth is, i’ve always had a hard time keeping a journal or putting my words out there. they’ve never seemed important enough, smart enough, original enough or, i’ve convinced myself that i’ll remember whatever i’ve been contemplating (ha!)

so here i am and i actually don’t know what i’m doing but i’m going to give it a go. patience and understanding would be lovely and gratefully received.

things i wanna try to speak to in this space: Angie, trauma, therapy updates, Beyoncé, crafty things, intentional community and healing, feminism, spinsterhood (being a homebody, recluse, etc), things that make me happy, anger, femme magic and care work, self care, disability stuff, staying soft in a world that wants to make you hard, navigating being a half decent person when you’ve got a lot of privilege and i’m sure as i get going on here, some other things.

do y’all have any other ideas/suggestions for me?

thanks for reading and starting out this weird endeavour with me.

here’s to writing things down and speaking hard truths,


ps. checking out the faq might be a good thing to do.